A common problem I have dealt with is self-doubt. Out of exhaustion, I have come up with a plan to combat it head on!! Today I will detail efforts to find a solution, in doing so I hope that it helps someone else out. Mind you, this is no overnight fix nor will it be simple. These suggestions must be implemented daily in order for them to be effective.
Banish negative self-talk
Banishing negative self-talk will help to improve many areas of life. These are the voices that are from the past telling you that you will not succeed because of past failures.
“ I was a different person then and I must remind myself of this on a daily basis. I no longer rely on alcohol to survive my day. Instead, I will be relying on my creativity to enhance my current lifestyle”.
Reminding myself of this will help me to stay present.
Regardless of what anyone has told you about yourself in the past, it has no bearings on today. Those were others opinions, not based on facts. The thought that you are not good enough stems from others and is not true because you are more than enough.
When negative self-talk occurs, immediately counter it with three positive things that you like about yourself. Do so out loud.
- I am kind
- I am creative
- I am unique
Evaluating your thoughts will allow you to banish any that are not true. This is an important step in becoming more confident in your abilities because it is a major one that holds us back.
This will evolve over time when you make banishing negative thoughts routine.
“Because of my lack of success in completing tasks I automatically assume that I will not finish what it is I have started”.
This simply is not the case.
What you did or didn’t do has nothing to do with what you are about to do
This is also a huge one to conquer and overcome but is possible by setting goals and sticking to them. Begin planning monthly goals with small daily/weekly goals set to achieve the monthly goals. Once you break your main goal down into smaller goals this will allow you to feel a sense of accomplishment which will, in turn, help you learn to trust myself. The key to this is setting realistic goals that take limited time into consideration. Once we get this down pact we will see it improving our time management. Having a focus will help guide us on a timeline.
One thing that I have noticed about myself is that regardless of the tasks at hand, I am ruled by emotion (bipolar). Meaning I may not feel like creating that day because my mood may be that of wanting to write. I’ve not yet decided how to approach this but it does need to be dealt with in some way. Perhaps I could list goals and chose one upon awakening. That sounds doable for me.
Stick with Your Decision
This falls close under the above category, trust yourself. In order to move forward, it is must that you make important, even some not so important, decisions. It creates a friction within when you cannot make decisions and you rely too heavily on others opinions.
This can ruin your style. I have learned that we all possess our own unique style. Trusting yourself will allow you to make a decision and stick with it.
No matter what you want to be successful at, it requires practice. Practicing your skill or trade or crafting will improve over time. You can see the change from the beginning until where you are today. Be patient with yourself.
Write out a short list of areas that you want to improve in and hone in on those for the week. This list shouldn’t be one that stresses you out rather assists you in growing.
Let’s use me as an example. I wanted to improve on painting using watercolor. For a solid week that is the only medium I used. I used it in paint form as well as in pencil form.
When you want to excel in a certain area, purchase a beginners kit, if available. These kits will include everything that you will need to practice with. If it is a trade you are working to improve upon, use clients as practice or mock models of your project. Get creative in the ways you build towards confidence.
Wrapping it up we now can implement these 4 ways to combat self-doubt and be on our way to success. Remember that success isn’t measured by others yet by your own standards. Set a goal of where you’d like to be in a month from now and work daily towards that goal using mini goals to achieve.
Together we can become confident in our skills!
Does this help you in areas of your life where you are less confident?
What are some tools you use to combat self-doubt? Share with me in the comments